So basically no matter what tutorial I look up or whatever I do its way to hard and impossible to download the paperspigot and it upsets me. I feel like it should be removed or something its just very upsetting that I can't play my favorite server.
You don't need to download paperspigot to play on the server, that is a serverside modification. For clients (you), you just need to connect with Minecraft 1.12.2.
what is ur client setting. if it says 1.12 or 1.13.1 you will not be able to connect to the server. you have to make sure it says 1.12.2
1. Press the "Launcher options" on the top right 2. Click the "Add new" button 3. Click the version > release 1.12.2 > save 4. Go back to the "News" tab > Click the arrow next to play > Select the profile you've just created, that says something along the lines of "1.12.2" > Click Play